DIVORCE, SEPARATION and loss COUNSELLING melbourne
If you're moving through a divorce or separation — or navigating the deep grief of ending a significant relationship — you're not alone. I’ve been there, and I know it’s not just an emotional shift, it’s a full-body experience. Our nervous systems become bonded and conditioned to life with another person, so when that bond breaks, it can trigger feelings of deep fear, anxiety, confusion, depression, and a loss of identity, purpose and direction.
But here’s the truth: life can be better on the other side.
Through the BME Lifestyle™ approach, I guide you to reconnect with your body, mind, emotions and energy — so you can begin to heal, regulate, and rediscover who you truly are beneath the pain. This work helps you rebuild your inner safety, awaken the wisdom within your body, and restore joy, clarity and empowerment from the inside out.
You are not broken. You are becoming.
Together, we’ll map a new path forward — one rooted in self-trust, alignment and real wellbeing. Let’s uncover the true you and create a life that feels authentic, grounded and beautifully yours.
Struggle with confidence, self care and knowing what to do
Cant find meaning in life and are scared to date and venture out there
Lost yourself and need help to heal, grieve, and find new perspectives and meaning
Feel stuck, confused and unable to move forward
What to expect from a session supporting your DIVORCE, SEPARATION or loss
I design each session to support your full healing — emotionally, physically, mentally and energetically — as you move through divorce, separation or the end of a significant relationship.
You’ll be guided to release emotional pain, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with your body in a way that feels safe and empowering. Together, we’ll explore the thoughts, beliefs and survival patterns that have shaped your experience — and begin to shift them.
Using my BME Lifestyle™ approach — a blend of somatic therapy, nervous system rewiring, emotional release, sound healing and intuitive guidance — I help you feel grounded, supported and reconnected to your truth.
You’ll learn how to feel and think differently, rewire limiting beliefs, and rebuild your confidence, clarity and sense of purpose — so you can move forward feeling more confident, empowered and like yourself again.
what my divorce and separation clients feel
Highly Recommended. Anca works at multiple levels for health and wellbeing individually tailored to the person's needs. In my case I'd gained significant weight post-covid and exacerbated sleep apnea. Things were Chronic to the point where I could not drive more than 20 minutes and had trouble concentrating with work. This was compounded by grief having lost my wife not that long ago. She tailored an eating, supplement and coaching plan, listened attentively that helped me work from the inside out, gut health, fitness and weight management, in an encouraging and positive approach - teaching me "how to fish rather than giving me things to eat" and get back on my feet. Anca requested bloodwork, working with my GP and tailored supplements accordingly. Having a regular consult has resulted in huge improvements in quality of life, emotional as well as physical health. Concentration, the weight came off easily, I learned to love fresh food and can cook a mean healthy meal these days. My morale is through the roof and I'm enjoying life and getting out again.
Pierre
Anca approach to healing is gentle, knowledgeable and supportive. She ensures you are comfortable during your sessions and have you feeling lighter in your heart/body.
Ketina
Working with Anca over the last 18mo has been transformative. I will admit I was sceptical at first, my body wasn't making it easy for Anca. Then I found that the sessions seemed to untangle emotional knots I didn't even realise were affecting me. The adjustments in my energy field translated into shifts in my mental and emotional state, I am feeling lighter, mentally clearer and calmer. I highly recommend Anca for anyone who is looking for a reset, growth and healing.
Teresa
What Is a Window of Tolerance and Why Does It Matter After Loss?
The window of tolerance refers to the optimal state where your nervous system can feel safe, process emotions and respond to life without shutting down or becoming overwhelmed. After a significant loss like divorce or separation, many people find themselves outside of this window — either hyper-aroused (anxious, reactive, restless) or hypo-aroused (numb, shut down, disconnected). In our work together, I help you map your nervous system and gradually widen this window so you can feel more emotionally balanced, present and capable of moving forward. Through body-based tools, breathwork, somatic awareness, talk, nutritional and sound therapy, you’ll learn how to come back into regulation — where true healing and clarity can happen.
Rebuilding Your Identity After Divorce or Separation
One of the most disorienting parts of divorce is the loss of identity that often follows. When your life, routines, roles and even sense of self have been shaped around a relationship, its end can leave you feeling like you don’t know who you are anymore — or how to begin again. This is a common and deeply human response, not a failure. In our sessions, I help you gently reconnect to yourself through body-based and somatic therapy, nervous system mapping, and emotional exploration. Together, we uncover the parts of you that were silenced, shape-shifted or forgotten — and begin the process of redefining who you are now, based on your values, truth and inner knowing. With the right support, rebuilding your identity after divorce becomes a deeply healing and empowering journey — one that brings clarity, confidence and a renewed sense of purpose.
Live your best life
Feeling energised, well nourished, connected to your body, others and your environment are the prerequisites for a life well lived.
Create a self care based lifestyle
Create a balanced lifestyle, nutrition and self care routines that keeps you healthy, happy and thriving.
Become confident and empowered
Learn how your body, mind, and emotions work to achieve mastery of your body and mind feeling peak everyday
Never struggle again
Connected to SELF, you'll intuitively navigate life and health, effortlessly being able to know what to chose and when such that your needs and creative pursuits are always addressed.
FAQ – divorce, separation, loss in Melbourne
What are the benefits of therapy after divorce or separation?
Therapy after divorce offers a safe, structured space to process the emotional, physical and energetic impact of the breakup — and to rebuild your life from a place of clarity and self-trust. It helps you work through the grief, anger, confusion and loss of identity that often surface after a relationship ends. At BME Lifestyle™, I support you in calming your nervous system, regulating your emotions, releasing stored stress from the body, and rebuilding your confidence and sense of purpose. Therapy helps you move beyond just surviving — to feeling grounded, reconnected and ready to create the next version of your life on your own terms.
How can BME Lifestyle™ counselling help me after relationship loss?
At BME Lifestyle™, I offer a holistic approach that supports your body, mind and energy through every phase of separation or divorce. You’ll receive tailored guidance using somatic psychotherapy, breathwork, sound healing and nervous system mapping. Together, we work to release emotional pain, shift limiting beliefs, calm anxiety, and reconnect you to your values, intuition and purpose. It’s not just about recovering — it’s about becoming the next version of you, grounded in authenticity and confidence.
Do I need counselling after divorce or separation?
If you’re feeling lost, anxious, overwhelmed or emotionally stuck after a breakup, separation or divorce, counselling can provide essential support. Many people experience identity confusion, emotional shutdown, physical tension or nervous system dysregulation after losing a long-term partner. Working with a qualified integrative therapist in Melbourne can help you process the emotional impact, regain your footing, and feel more like yourself again — with practical and somatic tools tailored to your unique experience.
What kind of therapy is best for healing after divorce or separation?
What does a typical counselling session involve?
My sessions combine talk therapy, somatic (body-based) work, nervous system regulation, emotional processing, sound therapy and intuitive guidance. We focus on calming your body, exploring the emotional impact of your separation, shifting the thoughts or beliefs that are keeping you stuck, and helping you reconnect to your body and truth. Sessions are personalised, supportive and always move at a pace that feels safe for you.
Can therapy help with co-parenting stress after separation?
Yes — co-parenting after divorce can bring up stress, confusion, and emotional triggers. I can help you develop tools to stay regulated, clear and grounded as you navigate ongoing communication or parenting responsibilities with your former partner. We work with your body, emotions and mind to help you feel empowered, calm and more in control of your responses.
How long does it take to heal after divorce or separation?
Healing after divorce is different for everyone — there’s no set timeline. What matters most is having the right support and tools to help you process what happened, regulate your nervous system and reconnect with your sense of self. At BME Lifestyle™, I support you in moving through the grief, confusion and emotional overwhelm at your own pace. Many clients begin to feel more clarity, confidence and calm within a few sessions, as their body begins to feel safe again.
Ready to discover your new identity, Energy and Balance?
If you have been going through a difficult divorce, separation and have become widowed I know your pain and can help provide the road map back to yourself, independence and joy.